MEN'S PROGRAMMES

I have no men’s programmes planned at present. Men who want to improve can complete the Home Study Course but they should read the free chapters which are available to download on my site. Men who buy the books without doing this and consequentially have a tantrum will not get a refund.

However when I did run them I forbade them to say anything personal about themselves. The reason for that is because every abusive man believes his partner is causing him to abuse her. They honestly DO believe this. So they arrived on my courses expecting me to help them cope with this horrible woman who forced them to be violent.
Be warned that some programmes encourage men to talk about themselves. This means they can wind themselves and each other up! On my programmes they were ONLY allowed to talk about the Dominator.
If a man is in a relationship I used to insist that his partner was in the room so she could see if he was changing or not.
I always refuse to write reports for courts and social services. I take the view that only his partner can judge whether the course has worked. IF SHE has done the Freedom Programme she can see if he has stopped using abusive behaviour.

FEEDBACK FROM A FREEDOM PROGRAMME

HOW DOES THE FREEDOM PROGRAMME CHANGE US?
WHAT CAN WE DO NOW?

I'm FREE – People believe me at last!

Buy what I want for me and kids!

Wear what I want!

Understand what makes an abusive man Tick!

I can breath without fear!

Can sleep at nights without crying!

Be able to relax! Slowly start to be strong

Being free to do what I want to do and go where I want!

Learn a lot about his behaviour gained an insight of DV

Opened my eyes

I can now wake up in the morning knowing I can carry on with my plans for the day and not worry what I'm going home to.

Make me more aware of domestic violence
have friends over (without them being run down)

Go to sleep with no stress

Come out of my shell, able to talk out about it

Make and cook food that I want, make cakes when I need to

Have children more relaxed and not walking on eggshells

Try not to blame myself for his mistakes

Meet a good man (non abusive)

Have things around with out it being a problem (e.g. at home)

Recognise that he has not got autism/aspergers deep down he's just abusive and asserting his power. Agencies believed him, but now I have the words to explain to them that his actions were abusive tactics

Not be yelled at down my ear

Can now understand and see the signs. Can now see that none of it was my fault. I didn’t deserve it

I can take my kids out and buy them things

Buy your own shopping what you want, without it being put back on the shelves

I can now wear make up and clothes that I feel makes me look good, I can go out and meet family and friends any time I choose.