Since being made redundant from my post as the Parenting Worker at Survive, an organisation in South Gloucestershire which supports women and children through domestic violence and abuse, I have been developing my own parenting programme to suit the specific needs of traumatised women who are often faced with the daunting task of parenting traumatised children. Experience and research has taught me that using a traditional parenting approach based on rewards and conseqences is not a good match for those affected by trauma and complex attachment.
The main reasons why I do what I do!
1.Post abuse, traumatised families do not need a power & control based parenting approach
2.We need to parent differently to get different outcomes for children and parents
3.We need an approach to raising children which breaks the cycle of violence & victims
4.We need parenting which builds empathy & reduces the effects of trauma
5. Parents deserve to enjoy parenting their children
When I was at Survive, I used to attend the Freedom Programme sessions on the effects on children and it has often been suggested that my parenting programme would be a good follow on from you excellent programme as understanding and parenting complex and often challenging behaviour is often a major concern for women once they are out of the abusive relationship.
Jane Evans Specialist Parenting and Behaviour Skills Consultant